7 Marriage Secrets Every Mother Must Tell Her Daughter
From bollywoodshaadis.comLove that culminates into marriage is sweet, and if it is mommy dear who is guiding you through, the new phase in your life will become much simpler. Also, you are sure to earn some brownie points with your husband and your in-laws as well! Here are 8 marriage secrets that every mother should share with her daughter.
#1 Enter and stay in a relationship for the right reasons
“A lady’s imagination is very
rapid; it jumps from admiration to love, from love to matrimony in a
moment.” - Pride and Prejudice
Mothers
must teach their daughters that true love is about affection,
selflessness and gratitude, and letting go. If those qualities are not a
part of a relationship, then it time to reconsider your steps! The fear
of being alone or societal pressures are not the reasons to stay with
someone. She should accept a proposal out of genuine love.
#2 Let love radiate from within
You cannot love and respect others unless you have oodles of it for
yourself. After getting married, even if you are not practically living
with your in-laws in the same house, the relationship with them and
other significant elders does matter a lot. You need to do things for
others and sometimes even place them over youself. Do not worry, if the
origin of love is from within, nothing can stop it from being a
perennial spring for everyone!
#3 Room to breathe and love
Every relationship needs time and personal space to bloom. Remind your
daughter to give her partner that breathing space. Tell her to not let
feelings like over-possessiveness, jealousy or even curiosity override
her basic sense of judgement. More importantly, to also keep alive her
interests, hobbies, spend time with friends, and also some alone time-
she needs it all to feel fulfilled. There is always plenty of room for
romantic love.
#4 Food for the soul
A mother must give her daughter a diet that is rich in self-esteem and
confidence. Jess Weiner, writer and a self-esteem ambassador, says,
“Believing you are enough means remembering that nothing in you needs to
change to be loved.” Teach your daughter that someone who tries to
convince her otherwise is not the man for her. Remember daughters, if
you do not believe in yourself, nobody else will.
#5 Your body is not an object of desire
Ah! That three lettered word- the ouch talk! Mothers should teach their
daughters to love their bodies- another important lesson in self-esteem.
Your body deserves pleasure, and is not an object of lust and “use”. If
you don’t teach this, who will? Her body is not only to be loved by her
partner, but also for her to take care of and experience its joys.
Talking about it positively puts her in the driver’s seat.
#6 Marriage is not “for giving up”, but forgiving
The first few months of marriage can be fairly challenging. Especially
when it comes to arranged marriages when the partner is chosen by the
family, and the girl has to accept her husband with all his “goods and
bads”. It is important that mothers teach their daughters to first be
comfortable with, and accept their own shortcomings. Thus, it would
become easier for her to accept her better half as she realises that
people are not perfect, and that rather than giving up, letting go of
certain things is the key to happiness.
#7 Write your own fairy tale
“Mr. Tall, Dark, Handsome” comes strumming his guitar as he descends his
white horse- tring tring- it is time to wake up and smell the coffee
girl! Tell your daughter not to model her life after Cinderella or
Rapunzel. Real love is complicated, and comes in all different forms.
But it is not difficult to write your own fairy tale, once you have
leant about the keys to a happy relationship.
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